What Triggered The Anxiety?

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When the doctor asked me what triggered my anxiety I wasn’t quite sure what to tell him.  I knew exactly what it was but how was I supposed to explain to him that my husband got drunk one night and decided to threaten me (which he had never done before) and it triggered memories of my abusive stepfather.

I wasn’t prepared to answer tons of questions about what’s been going on between my husband and I.  Truth is he has never been “suggestive” abusive.  Sure he gets angry but I have never felt threatened.  I blamed it on the booze and swept it under the rug.

My husband agreed to quit drinking and so far hasn’t touched a drop.  That was a month ago.

When I met my husband he was sober and for 6 of the 7 years we have been together he was sober.  And even when I have seen him drunk he had never once been a mean drunk…not ever.  So I am still baffled as to why on this particular Sunday he decided to turn into a real douche bag.

I know we had been having a lot of problems because I wasn’t wanting to by intimate as much mostly due to the fact that I had been on anti-depressants for so long that they had suppressed everything.  I didn’t care about anything except just getting through the daily routine of life so that I could go to bed.

I started to like the fact that he was gone working all the time so that I wouldn’t have to deal with him constantly nagging me about sex.  Sometimes I think that the fact he nagged me all the time about it was the reason I was so withdrawn from him.  I could feel myself endlessly thinking to myself, “Why don’t you just play a little hard to get buddy?”.  And when he would drink it would be even worse.  And somehow I was supposed to have sex with someone who could barely stand up.

After that particular Sunday I tried everything I could to get the anxiety under control.  I tried meditating, yoga, chamomile tea, hot baths, lots of breathing exercises but nothing worked.  I wasn’t eating, I couldn’t sit still, I couldn’t focus, and the only reason I was sleeping was because of Ambien.  Like I seriously couldn’t wait to take the Ambien so that I could finally get some relief and relax enough to fall asleep.  But I didn’t stay asleep…I would sleep for 4 or 5 hours and then wake up in a state of pure panic.

It was ruining me.

Finally after 3 weeks of it I had had enough and went to the doctor.  I also joined the gym.  The meds make me a little loopy but the gym gives me back my energy and the state of panic, although it isn’t gone, is at a controllable state.

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8 thoughts on “What Triggered The Anxiety?

  1. Hope things start to improve soon. Don’t forget that seeing you so down is probably pretty tough going for him and although inexcusable to threaten, the sex pest side is possibly symptomatic of feeling pushed out. You need to keep talking. The drinking side is really not cool. Rarely are so called sober people sober long term for no reason and so he must know he and the bottle don’t mix. You have my good wishes and sympathy but try not to forget that the world will keep on spinning around you while you are unwell and so other people will inevitably collide with you if you shut them out, despite your illness. An inconcovenience at a low ebb but don’t give up in seeking all the professional help you (and your husband) may need on the road to recovery x

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    1. Thank you. We have been on a good path so far. My meds seem to be helping and I haven’t had a panic attack in over a week now. I have also started working out and changing my eating habits to clean eating. I love my husband and I know that his family means more to him than anything…he just isn’t very good at showing or saying it. He had a very tough life and it shows. Thanks so much for the advice 💖

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  2. Oh gosh, I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been going through a tough time. I really hope that you can find a path through these challenges and I hope too that you find the support you might need along the way. Sending hugs. xx

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    1. I am working through. There are so many people who have so many more things to be upset about than me. My life really is a good life but it’s just so strange how panic attacks come on…out of nowhere. Thank you for the ❤️


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