You Can’t Help Those Who Refuse To Help Themselves

I have always been raised to only help those who want to help themselves.  To never borrow money that you can’t afford to lose.  And to always work hard at being the best you can be.

This morning my husband’s mother text him asking to borrow money….again.  In the 7 years that I have been with him we have given her 2 paid for vehicles and borrowed her money a few times…not to mention when she would come watch her grandchildren so we could go somewhere overnight we would pay her!  Pay her like she was a babysitter instead of a grandparent!  Really?

Now before you go thinking that I must be a real bitch let me tell you a little background about my mother-in-law.  She’s made bad choices her whole life.  Never learning from her mistakes and just moving on to the next mistake.  The man she was married to when my husband was a teenager beat the shit out of my husband to near death and did she leave the son of a bitch?  No my husband left home and started taking care of himself before he was even legally an adult.

The abusive asshole later died in a house fire.  Funny how karma works sometimes.

So what does my mother-in-law do?  She ends up marrying the abusive asshole’s best friend and having a daughter.  And to add to it…the best friend is an alcoholic and doesn’t work.

Fast forward to now…my mother-in-law works.  And she supports the alcoholic, his friend who is also an alcoholic and doesn’t work, and my 20-year-old sister-in-law who for some reason feels that her goal in life is to sleep until noon and then sit her lazy ass on the couch all day entertained by her drunk father and his drunk friend.  Oh and did I mention that my father-in-law smokes cigarettes too?  So between the daily intake of alcohol and cigarettes I can only imagine what that must be costing.

So rather than putting her foot down and telling them that she will no longer be paying for anything for any of them (they are all perfectly capable of working) she now needs to borrow money…again…from us.  Us over here supporting a family of 6.

And lately because we have encountered more expenses I have actually thought about putting my youngest child in full-time daycare so that I can return to work.

It upsets me so much that I feel like I just want to disconnect from his family and all the drama.  There is so much more to this story that I will save for another time.  For now I just felt like venting because my husband will just give her the money, won’t say anything, all while I am over here wanting to send his 20-year-old sister an email telling her that it’s time for her to get off her lazy ass and get a job and start helping out with the bills if she is going to live there.  I have always had a strong work ethic so it upsets me when I see people who are healthy and capable of working and just choose to be lazy.  Laziness is unacceptable.